Domestic violence (DV) is unfortunately a common occurrence and happens in all communities regardless of demographics, but what can you do to help?
Understand DV
DV is about power and control over a partner or family member. It has many faces, ranging from the most obvious in physical violence, but also includes many other types of abuse, including verbal, emotional, or financial. People often say things like "why doesn't she just leave," and it is also often a complex answer. They could be afraid: Instances of homicide are most likely to occur in the time after a victim leaves their abuser. They could be financially trapped. The abuse could have damaged their self-esteem to the point that they don't feel empowered to make any change in their lives. They may be afraid to leave a pet behind. Or they could simply still want to do their best to make the relationship work. No matter where a survivor is at in their journey, it is important to be supportive: They are the expert on their own lives.
Know about Community DV Resources
If a survivor is looking for help, know where to refer them. Learn about local community Domestic Violence organizations: If you don't know where to start, consider national directories, such as the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Each local DV center provides unique services to help survivors. Services may range from emergency shelter; housing support; counseling; safety planning; connections to other local nonprofits to meet needs; and many more. Direct a survivor in need to these resources so that they can have all of the options in mind to make their own decisions.
Remember the Link!
Types of abuse often intersect: Where there is DV there may also be child abuse, elder abuse, animal abuse, or other types of violence. If a pet or animal is a barrier to a survivor seeking support, remember the Safe Havens for Pets project. This resource can help survivors find organizations that provide services to both humans and animals impacted by DV.
Final Thoughts
DV and all types of abuse are complex. Don't hesitate to reach out to community resources and encourage survivors to do the same.
Spread the word: DV (and all forms of abuse) thrive behind closed doors. By bringing abuse to the light, we can help to remove the stigma and shame victims may feel. Together, we can create a safer community for all people and animals!